ANGER MANAGEMENT

Anger disturbs our normal life every day.  We feel angry when somebody behaves rudely or obstructs our attempt. Or when we feel unfairly treated.  Anger is a strong feeling of hatred.

According to the research findings, the studies point towards our lifestyle pattern.  Our present lifestyle is quite fast.

Our expectation is quite high.  We want everything right according to our needs.  We regret and express ourselves by stamping our feet.

There are many ways of controlling anger.  The following 10 ways have been discussed to give you an idea.

1.  Deep Breathing Exercise :  Start breathing deeply and count up to 10 in tense situations.  In this way, the tension is reduced and so the anger subsides.  You can always leave the workplace and go somewhere else and come again. 
2. Express anger in a relaxed state:  When you cool down, your thinking becomes clear.  You can share your ideas strongly but without quarrelling.  You should not hurt others’ sentiment.  You should never try to subdue them with your words and expressions.
3. Physical activity is essential:  It is important to express our emotions.  Generally a person’s excess emotions come out like a volcano, i.e. all of a sudden it bursts out.  The chemicals in our brain are activated by physical activity.  This physical activities makes us happy and stay in a relaxed state.  This reduces our stress levels.
4. Practice thinking before speaking:  You may tell your colleague, friend or relative something that might hurt them.  So it is better to think before you speak.  Before speaking, start to think and speak cautiously.  This will also create an atmosphere and others will follow you.
5. Find a solution:  You should not emphasize  the point that made you angry.  You must solve the problem tactfully.  If your child is making his room dirty, you should solve it by closing the door.  If you find your partner coming home late at night, take dinner early or you can take it on your own.  Always remember anger makes situations worse.  Anger is not the solution to the problem. 
6. Never blame anybody:  You should not blame others for the situation.  This generally increases the tension.  You can express yourself in first person.  You need to be specific and show respect to others. 
7. Forgive others:  You can reduce anger by forgiving others.  Never let anger rule you.  You will be drowned in bad feelings of hatred and injustice.  Never expect others to behave like you.
8. Sense of Humor:  You need to reduce tension by adding humor in your life.  Never use strong words.  Create a tension free atmosphere. 
9. Learn techniques of relaxation:  You should learn relaxation skills.  You need to practice deep breathing exercises.  You can imagine a countryside picture.  You can mentally repeat a calming word.  Listening to music is a great way of reducing anger.  You can practice yoga. 
10.  Assistance:  It is difficult to control anger sometimes.  You might need assistance at extreme times.  You can visit anger management training courses in your locality.  With professional assistance, you can do the following things:

1.  Understand what anger is.
2. Identify the causes of anger.
3. Be aware of indications of anger in human beings.
4. How to control our anger.
5. Knowledge of our  depression.

Individual counseling from professionals   must  be sought if it is jeopardizing your life.  The anger management sessions can be done with family or with your life partner.   You can also ask your family members.  You can also talk with your health insurer, employee assistance program (EAP), clergy, state or local agency. 

Anger management can help us to improve our personal as well as professional life.